Gender Superiority?

Some women expect men to work for them. I don’t know where this mindset came from. Is it from religions or feminism? Feminism dictates that women must be financially independent (from someone). Good, no problem with this. Even if some of them become heavily dependent on their company or their managers, it’s their choice. If they like it, good luck! Now the question is: As a woman, to become financially independent, must I have men working for me in the company and outside the company? Should my partner work for me (Housework and all that the house needs)? Should men I date always pay for me on our dates? Am I entitled to gender superiority?

Formulated like this, I, as a woman, see it as exaggerated. I can be selfish for sure and see circumstances only from my perspective and how they can be beneficial to me. However, I don’t think I’m superior.

My understanding of the 3 monotheist religions is that they dictate that the husband, the father, the brothers, and the sons are accountable for the woman and all her basic needs. Does that mean that nowadays I have a right over every man because most modern men don’t apply this religious principle? Should we all, as women, take our religious “rights” by our hands from all men, especially when we can’t take them from these 4 categories of men?

Well, this mindset seems overbearing and overreaching to men who are not concerned and have little to give anyway. It will just create a gender superiority and entitlement that can’t be justified. It looks like an emotional reaction without considering what is fair and to whom and without rules and guidelines based on analytical thinking.

What about our historical rights? Men didn’t let us work, controlled resources, and hindered our freedom. Hmm! First, men needed us in their lives. We didn’t accept to be in some man’s life unless he shared his resources with us, and we didn’t have to work. So, we had plenty of free time to socialize, to be feminine, and to prepare ourselves to seduce the men that we wanted. We are emotionally stronger than men, so they fall in love with us or take care of us easily. We just needed to be nice to them and they rewarded us automatically. Of course, not all men but the ones that like us. It was our work. Yes, we were hypocrites to some men because we had to, but it’s not a gender issue. Nowadays, we feel the need to be hypocrites to women or men that have some sort of power or they possess something we want to get access to.

I recognize that the world has never been perfect and will never be. Nor women nor men should suffer! Does that mean I should be vindictive and revengeful towards anyone I see abusing someone else, especially men abusing women? Since I am a woman, I feel I need to stand up next to my fellow “Sisters in Life” But wait! If I see some “sisters” abusing men, what should I do? Should I assume their actions are justified and well-reasoned? Oh my goodness! I feel biased now!

I don’t know what to do. This is very puzzling! If I’m incapable of evaluating the situation, I can’t act! I will just feel stupid and out of place after I get enough information that proves the opposite of what I assumed early on. So when can I evaluate? It’s only in my circle about whom I have enough information. Should I defend only women? Men can take care of themselves. However, I know women can take advantage, at least emotionally, of men. What should I do in this case? They are my sisters in life! Well, if I’m standing for what’s right, it’s not linked to gender. I Should be able to confront my gender when they make mistakes or cross some limits. They will. So, I must be strong in this sense and defend the victim whatever the gender. Men can also be my brothers in life. Why not? Why there should always be a competition or a vigilance from both sides? Men make mistakes and cross some limits. Of course, but so as women.

I must be independent of the noise, listen to my inner voice, try to see the big picture and the details, listen to both sides, have a good heart that refuses to be abused, and see what’s beneficial for me and the others. I’m not selfish. I take care of myself without stepping on others’ rights. If I’m the victim, I must defend myself or surround myself with people who can protect me, even try to take away from the aggressor the possibility of attacking again against me or someone else. However, this doesn’t mean I should destroy this new enemy by whatever means to whatever extent.

I’m a strong woman. I’m also a voice for reason and a model for justice.